Asiatic Family Aspirations

We’ve heard about tight, authoritarian Eastern upbringings a lot lately, with Amy Chua’s book Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother recounting unlimited pianist practice sessions after school and studies showing that Asian parents place great emphasis on children’s academic achievement. But what we do n’t hear about are the many reasons why Asian families might be so demanding of their children.

One purpose is that in most Asiatic ethnicities, ancestor worship and filial devotion are extremely valued. Families expect their youngsters to carry on the family title, serve their in- laws and respect and honor their elders, including parents. Children are taught to remain pleasant and peaceful, timid and deferential. Emotional outbursts are discouraged, and kids who fail to meet their relatives’ anticipations are shamed ( also known as “losing face” ). Parents are often forthcoming with empathy or praise because of the fear that they will inspire laziness.

In addition, extended families are typical in Asian communities and two or three centuries perhaps live under the same roof. In many of these communities, the father is head of household and key decisions are made by him. Female children, despite their education and professional qualifications, are expected to stay home to take care of the old members of the household. This is especially true in China, where girls are considered second-rate to children. It is for these reasons that it can be difficult for Asians to embrace that their kids are unable to satisfy selected familial expectations and requirements.

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